I had invited a friend round today to have coffee in the afternoon.
This was about 15 minutes after they (she, her boyfriend and her son) were supposed to be here.
So I texted her back asking whether that meant that she was going to be late or (like so many times before) that she wasn't coming. I received an answer about 4 hours later saying that "it had been so nice at her mums and that she had just forgotten the time".
Now, I am not saying that it did not bother me, but I could have dealt with it a lot easier, if I didn't have two rather disappointed girls sitting there crying.
Obviously, they know her and know her track record of not showing up when she is supposed to. My friend has a real problem in saying no. She would rather cancel via text message (she wouldn't dare phone and cancel for fear of people being upset with her) and then wait a few days before calling again in the hope, that things will have blown over by then. I have explained this to my daughters many times and I do tell them not to get their hopes up until my friend is actually standing at our door but they still do...
And today they had helped clean up and get everything nice and tidy, then they had made some lovely paintings for my friend and we had also NOT baked a cake (which we had planned) because my friend said that she would bring something.
So needless to say, my girls were not happy.
Luckily some friends of theirs turned up and they were able to play with them with soon got them laughing again but tonight, at bedtime, my youngest asked me: "Why does she (my friend) never do what she says she is going to do?"
How do you answer that? What do I tell them?
What do I tell her? I have approached the subject several times and she keeps saying "Yes, I know, I won't do it again..." but then she never sticks to it.
I really like her, she is what you could call a sort of best friend. I can talk to her about anything and if I need her she is always there (well, almost) but this is really getting to me and to my daughters.
Do I just bite my tongue and hope it will be better next time? Do I just not invite her anymore? Do I tell her, AGAIN?
I just don't know...
I guess that is enough ranting for now.
On a good note, it is only 3 weeks until Simon will be here again. :-)
Obviously, they know her and know her track record of not showing up when she is supposed to. My friend has a real problem in saying no. She would rather cancel via text message (she wouldn't dare phone and cancel for fear of people being upset with her) and then wait a few days before calling again in the hope, that things will have blown over by then. I have explained this to my daughters many times and I do tell them not to get their hopes up until my friend is actually standing at our door but they still do...
And today they had helped clean up and get everything nice and tidy, then they had made some lovely paintings for my friend and we had also NOT baked a cake (which we had planned) because my friend said that she would bring something.
So needless to say, my girls were not happy.
Luckily some friends of theirs turned up and they were able to play with them with soon got them laughing again but tonight, at bedtime, my youngest asked me: "Why does she (my friend) never do what she says she is going to do?"
How do you answer that? What do I tell them?
What do I tell her? I have approached the subject several times and she keeps saying "Yes, I know, I won't do it again..." but then she never sticks to it.
I really like her, she is what you could call a sort of best friend. I can talk to her about anything and if I need her she is always there (well, almost) but this is really getting to me and to my daughters.
Do I just bite my tongue and hope it will be better next time? Do I just not invite her anymore? Do I tell her, AGAIN?
I just don't know...
I guess that is enough ranting for now.
On a good note, it is only 3 weeks until Simon will be here again. :-)
